We are born and we die. So it goes for all living beings; plant, animal, human. We all know this and at least on some level are able to accept it. Experiencing grief when loss occurs is also a natural and normal and healthy response. The healing response that comes from experiencing grief allows us to move forward in our lives, it brings us compassion and it also makes us all aware of our own mortality.
Sometimes though, people get stuck in the bitter aspect of grief. They see their loss as a punishment perhaps and it causes them to become hardened towards others or themselves. In this case, many times people replay the events of the loss over and over and create a cycle of unhappiness for themselves that can be difficult to interrupt. This effect can be similar to the triggers that those with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder deal with in that the least little thing, such as a smell, can cause the person to be right back where they were when the loss occurred. This can cause a pattern of destructive thinking which affects all parts of a grieving persons life, from work to sleep and interactions with their family. If these patterns are showing up for you or someone you care about, then hypnosis may give some relief in processing the grief so that it is less intrusive and more healing.
Utilizing the sub-conscious can help to minimize the traumatic parts of the loss while retaining all the loving memories that you want to hold onto. There are several ways in which you may do this, one way is to, through trance, have a conversation with the deceased to heal old wounds or find closure by saying those things that you may not have had an opportunity to say. Our sub-conscious mind does not differentiate between real and imagined and this process can bring about profound peace. Another approach is known as Therapist Driven Therapy which allows me to help you with some of the symptoms of profound / complicated grief such as insomnia and anxiety; at the same time this type of therapy helps you to lessen the feelings of guilt or anger that are preventing you from moving forward in your life.
Many times people feel that if they are happy or having fun or loving someone else it is as if they are disrespecting the deceased. In my own experience I could not listen to or sing along with music for 5 years after the loss of my son, I simply felt that it was not right for me to be that happy without him. I learned that it is okay to enjoy my own life while still remembering and loving my son.
If you or someone you know is suffering with loss, I would be happy to help them through it. You can contact me through one of the means below with questions or concerns.